Supporting Someone With their Mental Health

Mental Health

If someone you care about is struggling with their mental health, it can be hard to know what to do. MindWise have a guide on supporting someone with their mental health.

It can be really rewarding to know we are helping someone we love. Caring for a friend or family member could help us feel closer to them.

We might also feel as if we are growing our understanding of mental illness and developing our ability to empathise and support others. We might feel as if we become more resilient and more skilled at advocating.

We might not feel like this all the time, but it can be helpful to remind ourselves that we are doing something important by offering our time and care.

If someone you care about experiences mental health issues, it can be hard to know how to support them. Here are some ideas to help.

Learn more about mental health issues

Knowing more about diagnosis and symptoms can help us understand our friend or family member’s experience. This might help us feel more confident about supporting them. It might also help to read or watch personal stories and blogs written by other people with similar experiences.

Ask them what would help

They might want some practical support, like below. It might just be really helpful to know someone is there if they need a listening ear. Encourage them to think about what has helped in the past.

They might not be sure what would help right now – but we can remind them to tell us when they think of things they need.

Be open minded

This is especially important if we don’t have any experience of mental illness ourselves. We might not be able to understand why they can’t change their behaviour or see things differently. It’s rarely that simple. Mental illness can be difficult to live with and affects different people in different ways.

Stay patient and calm if you can

Sometimes our friend or family member might say upsetting things or push us away. It’s understandable to feel hurt, especially when we are trying our best to help. Try and remember that they are dealing with difficult experiences and emotions. It might also help to talk to other people we are close to or look for some peer support.

Offer practical support

Some examples of practical support might be;

  • cleaning the house,
  • cooking some meals,
  • helping with childcare,
  • going with them to appointments,
  • helping them plan revision or make time for coursework,
  • reminding them to take medication,
  • helping them to find the right support,
  • going with them to groups or exercising together, or
  • helping with the garden.

Think about how to respond to unusual or difficult behaviour

Some mental health issues can cause people to see, hear or believe things that other people don’t. Try to remember that their experience is real to them and might be very scary or worrying. It’s important not to laugh. Talk about how the experience might feel for them rather than focusing on what is ‘true’ or false.

Plan for difficult times

It can be helpful to think about what our friend or family member might like to happen if their mental health deteriorates. It’s usually best to do this when they are feeling well. Sometimes making a written plan can mean it’s clear for everyone.

Find out more about their rights

  • Sometimes, people have to be admitted to hospital against their will. It’s important to know as much as possible about their rights and how we can appeal if need be.
  • MindWise offers advocacy services to make sure that your friend or family members views are heard and to help them resolve any issues or difficulties. We can offer long or short-term advocacy.
  • Mental Health and Money Advice can help with money related issues.

Get support for yourself

Supporting a friend or family member with a mental illness can be hard work. Sometimes this is called caring. You are a carer if you provide unpaid support or care for someone who has a mental illness.

If we offer any kind of support or care, it’s important to make sure we think about our own needs too.

Remember it isn’t all negative

It can be really rewarding to know we are helping someone we love. Caring for a friend or family member could help us feel closer to them.

We might also feel as if we are growing our understanding of mental illness and developing our ability to empathise and support others. We might feel as if we become more resilient and more skilled at advocating.

We might not feel like this all the time, but it can be helpful to remind ourselves that we are doing something important by offering our time and care.

For more information and support on mental health on the hub, please click on the link - Mental Health on the hub.

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