Nightmares
The Sleep Charity
Night terrors and nightmares are often confused as the same thing but the two are completely different.
Nightmares are unpleasant dreams, occurring in dream sleep (REM), that are remembered upon waking. A night terror takes place during non-REM sleep and involves feelings of fear, screaming, thrashing around and sweating while still asleep, and won’t be remembered the next day. More information on night terrors can be found here.
Nightmares are more common than terrors but neither cause any psychological harm to your child.
Here are our tips on telling them apart and how to handle them
Night Terrors
- Usually happen shortly after going to sleep, and last for several minutes
- Common in children aged between 3 and 8 years old
- Your child will appear to be terrified but is actually asleep
- Your child won’t take comfort from you
What to do
- Keep calm and wait for the terror to pass
- Don’t try to intervene unless their safety is compromised
- When these are regular try rousing your child 10 minutes before they usually happen for two weeks to break the cycle
- It can help to keep a regular bed time and a relaxing wind down routine
- Make sure the room isn’t too warm, around 18 degrees is ideal
- Children usually grow out of night terrors, but if you are concerned consult your GP
Nightmares
- Are bad dreams that children wake from
- Occur in the second half of the night
- Common in children aged 3 to 6 years old
- Can be caused by watching a scary movie or worry/anxiety
- Your child will take comfort from you
What to do
- Reassure them that it was a dream
- Talk to them to find out if anything is worrying them
- Don’t reinforce the nightmare – there is no need to look under beds for monsters as they don’t exist remember!
- Practice a relaxing bedtime routine
- See a GP if nightmares persist or are occuring from a traumatic event