Helping Someone With Depression

Health Service Executive

Depression can develop slowly. Someone who is experiencing depression sometimes doesn't realise it. Often it's a partner, family member or carer who first realises that help is needed. They may encourage their friend or relative to see their GP or find some other source of support.

Signs that someone may be depressed

Depression has lots of possible symptoms. You may notice that someone:

  • has lost interest in doing things they normally enjoy
  • seems to be feeling down or hopeless
  • has slower speech and movements or is more fidgety and restless than usual
  • feels tired or doesn't have much energy
  • is overeating or has lost their appetite
  • is sleeping more than usual or isn't able to sleep
  • has trouble concentrating on everyday things

Tips to help someone who seems down

There are a few ways you can help someone who is feeling down:

  • let them know you care and are there to listen
  • accept them as they are, without judging them
  • help them to stay active, eat good food and get a good night's sleep
  • find support groups and psychological therapy services which may be available
  • stay in touch with them by messaging, texting, phoning or meeting for coffee - people who are depressed can become isolated and may find it difficult to leave their home
  • try to be patient
  • take care of yourself

More information on how to support someone with depression or bipolar disorder can be found on the Aware.ie website.

When to get help

Contact your GP if the person you're worried about says they are feeling suicidal. If the person is attending a mental health service, speak to their mental health team.

Useful resources

Your Mind Plan offers practical ideas and advice to help you boost and maintain your mental wellbeing. Answer the quick 5-question quiz and the Every Mind Matters widget will give you 5 tailored actions to help you feel more in control, improve your sleep, deal with stress and anxiety, and boost your mood – as well as the option to easily swap any actions and to save the whole plan via email.

Helplines & Web Chats

Samaritans
Action Mental Health
Association for Post-Natal Illness Helpline
Aware NI - Support Groups
Aware NI - Online Support Groups
Mind - Side by Side Online Community